Remember Sweet 16? It could be extinct soon!

Just came back from Oregon, celebrating the 16th birthday of my first-born granddaughter. S he’s 5’10″ and  gorgeous, inside and out. Sweet. Kind. Smart.  But it will take everything we have to help her stay that way. The portrayal of women in the media has become more violent , sexual, degrading, and dehumanizing in the last few years.  If you doubt it, please watch the trailer for the film, Miss Representation.  It has earned many awards and is now the focal point of a national movement to stop sexism and violence against women.

THEN do something!!!  Here’s what Jennifer Siebel Newsom, director of Miss Representation suggests:

1. Tell 5 people about the film and share one thing you learned from watching it.

2. Parents:  watch TV and films with your children.  Raise questions like “What if that character had been a girl instead?”

3. Remember your actions influence others. Mothers, aunts and loved ones—don’t downgrade or judge yourself by your looks. Fathers, uncles and loved ones—treat women around you with respect. Remember children in your life are watching and learning from you.

4. Use your consumer power. Stop buying tabloid magazines and watching shows that degrade women. Go see movies that are written and directed by women (especially on opening weekend to boost the box office ratings). Avoid products that resort to sexism in their advertising.

5. Mentor others! It’s as easy as taking a young woman to lunch. Start by having open and honest conversations with a young person in your life.

Here are my suggestions:

Use Twitter and blog posts to raise awareness about ad campaigns , news images, and films that use women (or men for that matter) in dehumanizing, violent and sexual ways.

Stop buying the products of companies that support such campaigns. And let them know WHY you are not buying it!

My precious granddaughters (all three) and I will thank you.

 

 

Join Me In Irvine On April 3, 2012

I’m happy to say I’m presenting “Radical Resilience: Leadership Skills for a Complex World” at an evening event for NAWBO of Orange County.  Registration is open to everyone.  To get more information visit NAWBO.

CUSTOMER SERVICE HORROR STORIES AT UNITED AIRLINES

“Please continue to hold. A baggage agent will be with you shortly.”

Stop already!!!! I am tired of listening to Rhapsody in Blue. I want a human being. And I do NOT want baggage claim. I am trying to find my glasses left in a “United Club” yesterday.

Forget it. I have gotten through 2 hours of on-hold with what had been the “Red Carpet Club”, then sent to busy signals at San Fran Airport and now, I am told lost-and-found is my answer.  Alas, this number I am given goes NOT to lost-and-found but Baggage Claim.

AAAARGH. I do not want to talk to Avatar Alex!!!!

I am so angry I could do serious damage to another human being. My husband better lay low.

How can so many people have so many pieces of wrong information? At one time, I had close to one million miles on United. Not any more. They cancelled so many flights from Orange Coast to the East Coast I could no longer use them. Now, their fares are so much higher than other carriers, I can’t ask my clients to pay for it.

This last insult is not being able to speak to a human being. Is this what mergers mean? Oh yes, they changed my Mileage Plus number that I have probably held for 20 years into some numerical/alpha thing . They have NOT sent out anything such as a card to remember this new “number “.

Another stanza of Rhapsody in Blue. Saints preserve us!!!

If you are as angry as I am about not getting to the right people, in a timely manner, and with companies (carriers) who haven’t figured out how to matter to their clients, WRITE!!! Can we start a ground swell.???? !!!!!!!!!

$2 Bills Bring Smiles

It’s wonderful how simple things can brighten a day. So listen up all you who travel:  go to your bank and order $2 bills. I get them in lots of $200. When they come, take the bills to your local Kinko’s or quick print place. Have the bills padded in lots of $40. Then, whenever you travel, take a pad with you.

Think of how many $2 tips you give: bellman, housekeeping, and more. Mix the $2 bill with the tip for the cab driver, the waiter, the bartender. Watch their faces break into big grins when they see the denomination. Just today, getting a free soft drink at the United Club in the Orange County Airport, I gave the waitress  $2. Not only was it the first tip she had all day, but she smoothed it out and stared and the face of Jefferson.

We both just grinned.  

BTW, fellow travelers. Don’t forget to tip. You have been served. I motioned to the man standing at the bar who was on his second beer- and had given no tip for his free beer. Yep, I smiled and said “Pay up.”  He did.

Off to catch a plane. Let’s see how many $2 I can give away today.

Sisters forever

Nothing beats having a great sister…whether a blood sister or a soul sister. If you’re lucky, you get both in the same person. My soul sister, Vanna Novak, sent matching pins to my soul/blood sister, Susan Mullins: limited edition pins by Swarvoski entitled “mother and daughter flying.” The pins arrived February 29, the day we held a gratitude celebration for our beloved Mom who died Jan.28. Mom, a WWII pilot would have been 96. Thanks, Vanna!!

National Harbor Battle-Uniforms or Uniformity

Dateline: Washington,DC March 4.

Tomorrow, women in military converge here for the 25th Annual Sea Service Leadership Symposium. All branches of the service will be represented.Their goal is to learn and support each other regardless rank or branch.

Today, however, at the Gaylord at National Harbor a different scenario unfolds:the Battle at the Capital Cheer and Dance Competition.

The lobby blossoms in a kaleidoscope of spangles, rhinestone eye make-up, bare-bellied uniforms, and massive bows on top of ringlets. Yes, ringlets! It matters little whether the wearer is 5 years old or 15. Looks like Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm has been cloned a thousand times over. They huddle in clumps by uniform and practice moves that range from synchronized hand claps to torso-altering jiving. The sound through the atrium of this massive property bounces from pillar to ceiling. Cellphones text messages to people standing next to each other. As much as they strive to be different, my eyes blurs in the sameness of their energy and costume. Never once do I see a silver costume talking to a red/white & blue costume.  Nope. They stand as little islands, eyeing the competition.

Don’t get me wrong. From the little I can understand, this is a national movement/organization to help cheerleaders be safe athletes. (The web sites don’t clue me in). But there is something off-putting about the high stress atmosphere, the little girls looking like Barbie with overblown eye shadow, and pods of segregated contestants.

Tomorrow, there will also be women in uniforms: Navy, Air Force, Marines, Army, Coast Guard. While they will cluster, from past experience, I know that they will mix well, –trying to teach and learn about from each other about operating in this 24-7 military world that has been on high operational mode with multiple deployments for FAR too long. I think the cheer-leading squads should come into this meeting, present the military women with a rousing cheer, and then sit at their feet to discover how cooperation and collaboration transcend competition and uniformity.

 

 

20 Essential TED Talks for Future Leaders

From the staff of OnlineUniversities.com we found a compilation of videos that are essential for future leaders to view.  You’ll see videos of Seth Godin, Derek Sivers and Ron Gutman among others.  Take a look and select a few videos to view yourself!

What does a wrist band have to do with resiliency?

Great question. At face value: nothing!  Unless you happen to be a barista at Starbucks and you sell them as a part of a campaign to create job growth in the United States.

Now, as a barista – you are not just thinking about a single store. You are part of a movement to bring this country and its people back to economic health.  Only a resilient community, nation and its people can sustain any kind of growth and hope for the future.

Learn more how a $5 wristband becomes a $35 investment in job creation. Go to this website and learn more.

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No women on Congressional panel to ban birth control in health care coverage

It is unacceptable that Republicans would convene a panel on denying access to birth control coverage with five men and no women.  My twin brother, Dr. John McDargh, sent me this:  I heard the other evening the moving testimony of Sandra Fluke, a Georgetown law student, who described the tragic case of one of her friends who could not afford the $100 a month for contraception that was prescribed by her physician to prevent ovarian tumors. Her subsequent surgical loss of an ovary and suffering early onset menopause is a heart wrenching example of the impact of this policy that was NOT heard because the chair of the panel chose to rule her as “unqualified”to testify before Congress. Watch an interview with Sandra on MSNBC at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uY8M3boxqbk.

My question: if this were about Viagra, would there be an all-woman panel?

Women In The World Foundation

The Women in the World Foundation was born out of Newsweek & The Daily Beast’s Women in the World Summit, launched by the publications’ editor-in-chief, Tina Brown, in March 2010. The summit brings together extraordinary women leaders and advocates from around the world to find solutions to the challenges facing women and girls, from sex trafficking to the need for more women in the boardroom. It also showcases remarkable stories of everyday pioneers. In the year and a half since the first summit, participants have reached out to Newsweek & The Daily Beast in droves, wondering how they can get involved; how they can be part of the solution.  Visit the Women in the World Foundation to learn more.