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Today’s Economy DEMANDS A Critical Skill: Optimism

By Eileen McDargh - Wednesday, February 05, 2014

 

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Who Stands At Your Finish Line?

By Eileen McDargh - Friday, January 31, 2014
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Seasonal Stress Stretches Resiliency

By Eileen McDargh - Tuesday, January 28, 2014

But the holy family wasn’t expecting families from Boston, Oregon, and Los Angeles who would seek a bed as well as food. Maybe it was compounded by my laser printer dying and discovering, after I bought a replacement, that not all printers will work well with a MAC.

The anxiety level ratcheted upward when my I-phone then died and I discovered someone had hacked my user ID and password.  An hour’s worth of AppleCare finally fixed the problem but not before I found myself crying to the technician. Of course, I had already screamed at the switchboard for Hospice of the West because I needed help with my Mom. (Little did I know a nurse had come in the back door while I was waiting at the front door. I had to call back and apologize.) Few presents have been bought, ornaments remain in the garage eves, and I am definitely not a “jolly old soul”. Bet you have been there too! Time for me to take a dose of my own medicine.

Here’s the prescription I am taking: Give up the illusion of control. My “illusion” is that I can make it all better. I cannot. So the question becomes: of what of this can I control? I can move household items into boxes. I can clean other rooms of my house. I can learn how to eat with chopsticks. I can slow down before I pounce. I can relish whatever time I have with Mom and focus on the moment.

Ask for help. My neighbor has volunteered her home that will be empty over Christmas. My MAC buddies can give me advice about printers. (Duh-I should have asked them first. No, I “pounced”.) I will ask my relatives to wash their own dishes. Reframe the situation. As my husband says, “this will be an adventure.” He’s right. Who knows what lurks around the bend?  Why not ask what wonderful surprises there might be? Maybe we can make a game of “who can find the can of soup?”

Help someone else. When Mom is in a state that I can’t get her in a wheelchair to hear the music she loves, I will join the other residents and lead them in song. I did this and felt a wonderful peace in the process. It is about “doing what you can do”. I loved it. And from the looks on faces, they loved it to.

Be grateful. How can I forget this!  I have a roof over my head. I have an insurance policy. I have neighbors. I have a good place for Mom. I have loving caregivers. I have glorious family and friends. And yes, I can still sing. My hope for this season—amid the chaos—is that I might find it WONDER-FILLED and resilient in the end.
 

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A Halloween Treat Does the Trick for Hilton…and me!

By Eileen McDargh - Tuesday, January 07, 2014

 

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Trust Withheld; Micromanagement Unveiled

By Eileen McDargh - Monday, November 04, 2013

 

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Don’t Shrink—RETHINK!

By Eileen McDargh - Friday, October 18, 2013

 

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Guest Post: Descartes' trap -- Don't fall into it!

By Eileen McDargh - Wednesday, September 25, 2013
We get ensnared by it all the time. No one is immune to Descartes' trap!

 

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Labor Day Musing: Work is a Four-Letter Word

By Eileen McDargh - Tuesday, September 03, 2013

 

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Resiliency Insight: A Scavenger Hunt

By Eileen McDargh - Friday, May 10, 2013
"Wait," 

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How To Cope With Change

By Eileen McDargh - Saturday, January 28, 2012
How To Cope With Change 

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