The Energizer

Resilient Insights for Work & Life

Create Energy And Focus By Gathering Women Together

by Eileen McDargh, Chief Energy Officer - Sunday, November 15, 2009
Featured Image
Forget "fight or flight" as the only duo of responses in the face of stress. For women, there's a third response: "befriend".  A landmark UCLA study turned five decades of stress research on its head with the revelation that a cascade of brain chemicals gives women a larger behavioral repertoire when confronted with stress. The hormone oxytocin is released as part of the stress response in women. It controls the fight/flight response and, instead, encourages her to tend children and gather with other women.

According to co-researcher Dr. Laura Cousino Klein, now assistant professor of bio-behavioral health at Penn State, the study suggests that this "tending and befriending" response to Oxycontin produces a calming effect. Although it will take new studies to reveal all the ways in which oxytocin encourages women to care for children and band together, it might also explain why women consistently outlive men.

I have addressed numerous women's conferences and corporate networks of women and I can attest to the observable behavior that participants leave these sessions feeling stronger, encouraged, and positive. I believe they also leave healthier. The famed Nurses Health Study from Harvard Medical School found that the more friends people have, they less likely they are to develop physical ailments and the more likely they are to cope better with challenges.

Sadly, today's busy agendas often find women canceling the most positive and healthy thing they can do: gather with other women to engage in the kind of "rapport" and "report" talk that hallmark feminine conversations. The corporate women's networks that generate the most return for the time and money investment allow for the nuts-and-bolts training needed for the business while also creating plenty of opportunity for mentoring, problem-solving and the informal sharing of personal issues.

Create a gathering of women and stand back. The energy reborn from conversation, caring, compassion and concern can move a community, a business, and a nation into a higher place.

Share This Post

Like this post? Please share it!

< Back to All Posts


Eileen McDargh Keynote Speaker Blog Author

About Eileen!

Since beginning her consulting and training practice in 1980, Eileen has become noted for her ability to speak the truth with clarity, wisdom, humor and compassion. Long-standing clients and repeat engagements attest to her commitment to make a difference in minds, hearts and spirits of organizations and individuals. She draws upon practical business know-how, life's experiences and years of consulting to major national and international organizations that have ranged from global pharmaceuticals to the US Armed Forces, from health care associations to religious institutions. Executive Excellence magazine selected her as one of the top 100 thought leaders in leadership and among the top ten consultant providers of leadership development.

View all posts by Eileen

Subscribe to My Blog!

Like My Blog?

Please share it!

Recents Posts




Thanksgiving Radical Resiliency Divorce Art Postive Work Environment gratitude employees Walk For Hunger Boston Marathon Animals earthquakes angels Travel Breathe Positive Brain Repatterning Adam Grant employee retention Meetings Content Generation Energizing Charity work life balance resiliency servant leadership St. Patrick's Day Your Resiliency GPS Back To School ecology stuck Napping Gifts From The Mountain Writing Reshaping the Brain love Climate Change Road Trip Sheryl Sandberg Marriage Arlington Cemetary Career Advice Sexual Harassment Speaking Environtment waiting Sales Leaders Open Doors Book Seder Eve Bill Treasurer Option B Energizing Others Multi-tasking WASP Yoga Energy Engaged Workers Change resilient leaders Strangers Labor Day Burnout preresilience John Blumberg Guns New Year resolutions Emotional Intelligence Empathy Humor Hurricane Irma Voting Talk Ain't Cheap Book Politics Optimism Building Resilience Honoring Veterans Tornadoes in Texas LGBTQ Soft Skills Alzheimer's The Last Jedi resilient organizations Deloitte women in leadership Learned Optimism Nursing Aging Suddenly Single Ecotourism holidays Feedback Breath e-mail Vacation Motivating Others cancer conscience Interview Survive Persuasion U.S.A.A. Jewish Henry VIII Bullying Trust Office Celebrations Listening Humanity Spelling Bee Hurricane Harvey Girls Education Book Reviews civil discourse Mother's Day Mark Scharenbroich goals Intentions Sustainability Family Ownership Leadership Skills Children Fun Work Environment Idea teams Memorial Day Social Media Kindness Christmas creativity Communication Happiness Adaptability Relationships Play resilience John Havlik Superbowl Networking Twas The Night Before Christmas Corporate Culture Stress Exercise Branding customer service Disruption coaching Women More Fun at Work Dogs Employee Attitude Human Interaction USAA Adventure Married Spirit Loss Depression Diversity Laughter Volunteer Technology Faith Sleeping Siblings Disrupt Patriots