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by Eileen McDargh, Chief Energy Officer - Monday, July 02, 2018
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At a recent meeting, I was intrigued by fellow speaker Colin Boyd and what he and his wife were starting.  I asked him to write something and send it to me.  It is certainly in my wheelhouse!  See what you think:

I'd just finished running one of my workshops on the topic of 'Resilience at Work'.  I'd spent 6 hours unpacking effective ways to manage emotions and build personal confidence through proven psychological tools.  But then my client gave me an insight.

"I wish I had learned this as a /var/folders/4z/5rvmm4z520sd8hb4w1rsrqs80000gp/T/! If I'd known how to do this since I was young, it would have saved me so much difficulty".

And that's the truth, isn't it? If you learn how to manage your emotions and mind in a more effective way, you can move through challenges faster and easier.  Why wait until we are adults? How about teaching resilience to children!

This insight started my wife and me on a journey to begin a Kickstarter campaign to create a publishing house for the purpose of teaching resilience, courage, and kindness to kids using story time. We will start with our first book, The Boy Who Stood Tall.  Check out their website.  And in the meantime, here are some ideas for children.  To make sure you stay in the loop - sign up below for exclusive discounts & savings that will only be available to our inner circle...

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3 Ways to Improve Your Child’s Confidence Right Now 


We live in a society that often teaches us the way to build self-esteem is only through 'positive affirmations'. While it is an important to speak positively to ourselves, this is only one step of the process.

Confidence comes from competence. Watch as a child struggles to do build or draw something, & then learns how to do it. Their confidence grows dramatically. As you allow your child to struggle, to get frustrated, to learn; you are giving them the space they need to grow confidence.


This may seem obvious but very often we can forget the power of our words with our children. True encouragement is more than flattery. It is not telling our children "you're amazing" just because...

Encouragement is seeing who they really are, what their strengths are, what they have overcome, & speaking courage into those things.  Encouragement builds internal confidence.


Sometimes it doesn't matter how much we encourage our child or how competent they are, they still have a critical inner voice. Maybe their natural temperament is a little anxious or a bit of a perfectionist.  As a parent you can teach them about their own self talk.  We can teach our children not to believe every thought they think. Ask your child, “what are you saying to yourself?” Then, depending upon the response, gently offer alternative thoughts if needed.

Confidence is built over time, usually through a process of struggle.  As we equip our children with the tools they need to master their own thinking, we can set them up in strength.


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Since beginning her consulting and training practice in 1980, Eileen has become noted for her ability to speak the truth with clarity, wisdom, humor and compassion. Long-standing clients and repeat engagements attest to her commitment to make a difference in minds, hearts and spirits of organizations and individuals. She draws upon practical business know-how, life's experiences and years of consulting to major national and international organizations that have ranged from global pharmaceuticals to the US Armed Forces, from health care associations to religious institutions. Executive Excellence magazine selected her as one of the top 100 thought leaders in leadership and among the top ten consultant providers of leadership development.

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