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What’s love got to do with it?

by Eileen McDargh, Chief Energy Officer - Tuesday, May 19, 2015
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Answer: everything. At least it does when both parties have gone through divorces; there’s little money between them, and three kids to boot. One can imagine that saying “yes” a second time is akin to banging one's head against an iron skillet.

Time for a confession: that scenario is what my sweet husband, Bill Elvins and I faced 35 years ago when we stood in front of Father John and said “We do!”. And do we have done: three amazing kids with successful careers and solid marriages, four outrageously wonderful grandchildren, and adventures galore.

Bill and I have:

  • backpacked over the High Sierras,
  • joined a veterinarian in his ride to count the wild mustangs of the Eastern Sierras, 
  • trekked the northwestern corner of the India Himalayas, 
  • sat in the middle of San Ignacio Lagoon in the Baja while kissing the head of the California gray whales and their 18-footlong babies,
  • fished for salmon in Alaska and
    danced our feet off at many events, wedding, and award ceremonies.

After 35 years, I am so clear that we don’t need “stuff”. What we yearn for are shared experiences from which we learn, laugh, and soak in amazing sights, sounds and people.

I write this to honor my amazing Bill who is so supportive as I travel the globe, speaking. He’s the anchor that draws me home, the man who tends daily chores that I can’t manage, the one who calms me down and evens me out. He’s the laundryman, the chef, the wine steward, and the best hugger/snuggler on the planet. Yes, the wind beneath my wings.

I want the world to know about him. I want to honor the incredible job he has done as a father and a grandfather. He’ll be upset that I have written about him. Too bad. Sometimes, you just have to follow your intuition.

Happy Anniversary, Sweet William.

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Since beginning her consulting and training practice in 1980, Eileen has become noted for her ability to speak the truth with clarity, wisdom, humor and compassion. Long-standing clients and repeat engagements attest to her commitment to make a difference in minds, hearts and spirits of organizations and individuals. She draws upon practical business know-how, life's experiences and years of consulting to major national and international organizations that have ranged from global pharmaceuticals to the US Armed Forces, from health care associations to religious institutions. Executive Excellence magazine selected her as one of the top 100 thought leaders in leadership and among the top ten consultant providers of leadership development.

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